Are you exhausted, burned out, and hoping that a vacation or sabbatical will fix your issue? You are likely mistaken. If you want to live a full, healthy, and rested life, you are going to have to address the root […]
Recently I heard Andy Stanley say,
Great leaders absorb. Mediocre leaders defend.
Learning this simple leadership principle will yield stunning results for any leader that commits to it. Absorbing criticism without being defensive seldom comes naturally for a leader. But learning to absorb rather than to defend is one of the marks of mature leadership. A mature leader listens and reflects. A novice leader argues and defends.
Why Absorb Rather than Defend?
1. There May Be Some Level of Truth in Criticism
If you lead a staff, one of the most valuable things you can do is to have each person on your team create an annual plan. An annual plan is foundational for everything else that your staff team will do over the next year. In fact, drop everything else that you are doing with your staff team and do this. This planning process is designed for those who lead a major ministry area such as children’s, groups, worship ministries, youth ministries, connect, etc. October is prime time to begin this because your staff can roll into 2016 knowing exactly where they are headed.
People love to talk about themselves. For many of us, “Me” is our favorite topic of discussion. We love to talk about our experiences, share what we know, and give other people advice. I often wonder if we realize that nobody is listening. Our words are falling on deaf ears. There is another way to interact with people that will build deep and lasting relationships.
Here are three practices for making a real impact on the lives of other people:
1. Stop Talking About Yourself and Your Interests
An old Proverb says, “The faintest ink is more powerful than the strongest memory.” You know that moment when a thought crashes into your mind? Perhaps it is something you need to do. Maybe it is something you need to […]